It's Been Awhile

Well, it has been awhile since we had a chance to chat. In truth, life as it were got the best of me and I lost track of this lovely outlet of my life. I will catch you up briefly and then let you know what's going on now and what to look forward to in the days and weeks to come.

My husband as I believe I mentioned last was sick. He had diabetic problems and developed kidney problems along with a broken knee from a fall at the AT&T store to pay my cellphone bill. His illness created all sorts of life changes as you can imagine. His parents, a nasty couple of creatures on this planet took him out of the hospital and took him home with them. They locked him up, disconnected his phone and kept him from any house phone to keep him away from myself and our daughter. Yes, I know it sounds crazy but it's all true.

We snuck around for a good long while trying to see each other in the dialysis facility like a couple of high school teenagers forbidden to be together. But one day we got caught and his parents forced him to take me off the list and I was no longer allowed to visit inside so I had to wait in the parking lot and catch him as he was coming out which inevitably would piss his dad off. That wasn't my concern of course, we had a daughter and she needed to see her father and I needed to update him on her progress since he wasn't allowed to see her according to his abusive parents.

Lots of fighting and abusive behavior in sued. My daughter saw her father as a very weak man and her grandfather as a very mean and scary man. The authorities were called to help him get out of his situation but they were no help. He was an adult after all and adults don't get abused by their adult parents, right?

Well, in the end he gave in to his parents abusive demands and cut my daughter and I loose. We were left with no money and nowhere to go. We were homeless for a bit. Bouncing from my Music school I taught at and one of his friends house. Eventually, we moved in with a friend of mine. We lived there for 6 months then the bottom fell out again. My husband died, we found out by accident on Mother's Day. My mother had a stroke the day after his death and fell into a coma and our landlady lost her mind causing a whole heap of trouble that ended with our belongings throw out on the street and police circling our house because she called and lied and said we all broke into her house and were burglars. Oh, did I mention I wasn't behind on my rent. I actually was paying on time every month. She just didn't like that she couldn't bully me into paying for a financial mistake she made with her house.

So for the Summer we were homeless again, living in the Music school and my brother's apartment until we all found a new place to live. It was a fabulous Summer. We spent the entire Summer at the bay playing in the sun and at the swimming pool in my brother's complex. It was great. Summer ended and we started school in a new home.

Second grade turned out to be the year from hell. The Catholic School my daughter was going to put a target on our backs when I got upset about being hit in the face with a chip the school bully threw at me for trying to protect a little girl from him. He was in my child's class and had terrorized countless children from all grades K-8 in the school. His long list of gems were: stabbing little girls in the hand with pencils, kicking them in the groin while standing or laying on the floor, placing a staple in a classmates sandwich, yelling in kids ears, bullying and emotionally abusing students and my second favorite simulating masturbation to my daughter in the classroom with the class and teacher present.

Many abuses and discriminatory actions have happen to my daughter and I over my simple protecting of a child and asking the school to hold this child accountable for his bad behavior. The great offense of them all was my daughter receiving a final report card that stated she needed to be retained in the second grade and be enrolled in a program for special needs children. Did she need to be retained. No, not really. We had her tested three times to be placed in the third grade and she passed each time. Her final test place her in the 96 percentile. I went to the archbishop of the LA Archdiocese and the superintendent of Catholic Schools and filed a complaint. My reward for that was my daughter being blacklisted and turned away from a Catholic School we were set to start attending this current school year. The words used were, "Your daughter is not welcome here!"

All of this I know sounds unbelievable but I assure you it's all true. So now we are home schooling. It's an adventure in itself this home schooling creature. As this blog was created to talk about the joys of living this life with love and children and the pains of it all, I am coming back to do just that. I'm in a new relationship and still working on being the best mom I can be. So stay tuned. If you think what you missed is a story to be told. Wait to you read the things that are going on now. I promise you our new life is a triumph, an adventure and a pure joy to live but not without it's pitfalls. That is life after all.

Happy reading! Talk to you all soon! Welcome back! :D