Life Happens

Life happens each and everyday. The key to life is not what happens but how you handle life as it comes. I can admit that I in my 41 soon to be 42 years of living in this great world, I have not handled life as well as I probably should have. Thus this blog exist. Hopefully, my experiences of the Adventures in Life, Love and Parenting will teach others how to do it better.

My life as many who have known me longest has not always been smooth. Heck, truth be told if you've known me for the past two to three years you would know that my life has not been that smooth. It's been down right rocky at best. Meteor shower of mass proportion sounds more like it. Hahaha! I chuckle simply because I can. What else can I do? When I was younger I would be moving through my day with a sore puss face, losing weight quickly and looking sickly. I never really handled depression, yikes I said the D word, very well growing up. Being depressed made me very sickly all the time. I really hated being depressed but I must admit that I have spent a great deal of my life DEPRESSED.  Part of healing is owning it, right?

Now this post isn't a "Poor Kay" post where you get to sit back and hear all the sad and evil things people have done to me and then feel better about your life because you didn't have it so bad. You want to know all of the gory details you haven't already heard wait for the book. This post is simply to remind everyone and introduce those who have never heard the concept that "Life Sucks!" Just kidding! "Life Happens Everyday!" No amount of planning will change the fact that no matter how well you plan, life will pick you up and kick you square in the face, look at you and say, "What are you going to do about it?" That is the question isn't it? What are you going to do about it?

Well what should you do about it? Should you lay down and die as child who grew up in an emotionally, physically or sexually abused home? Should you stop dating for the rest of your life because the losers you dated before broke your heart? Should you remain in poverty for the rest of your life because your business partner screwed you out of large sums of money that left you bankrupt and homeless? It all sounds rather extreme doesn't it? Maybe that's because it is extreme but not something that can't be over come. I should know. I was homeless twice with my kid, not on the street but without a home of our own, and we survived. The Summer we were homeless was the best Summer we ever had. This past Summer was not nearly as fun and we had a place to call home. Perception! I've loved and lost twice. Both times they ripped me to shreds emotionally. I'm now in the best relationship I have ever been in. That story to come in another blog post. Stay tune!

Point is, life is all about how you perceive it. More and more each day I am learning to dislike people. Now understand I deal with a lot of people and I see a lot of things. I am in the process of cutting out the bad in my life and welcoming the good. I am realizing that there was a lot of bad. Oh well, spilled milk. There are some amazing people out there. You have to find them. You have to be one of them. You have to be willing to walk away from what does not serve you and only allow what does. Once you do that the right people will enter your life in droves. You have to ask for it. You have to see it and believe that it will be yours. It's the key to using the universe to your advantage. People inherently suck. OK! Maybe that's a bit harsh. There are some really selfish, self absorbed and heartless people out there. These people will make decisions to put them in a better position ignoring the fact that they will be screwing you into a worse position and they won't care that they are. Now some would say that these people aren't your keeper and I would agree. We must always be responsible for ourselves but we can't ignore the fact that life happens sometimes because of things others have done. If we want good people to enter our lives we need to be a good person and surround ourselves with good people who think of others and are not opportunist. Don't ever step on someone else's head and stand there looking for your next break. If you are going to put someone in a worse position simply by your choices then maybe the choice isn't the right choice to make. Hurting other's is never a good idea. Selfish choices are always bad choices. That's not showing up for your life. That is chickening out of it. Part of living is doing the hard things. Sometimes putting someone else's needs before your desires is the right thing to do. Always go out for your desires but don't take people down to get them.

Life happens to all of us. Money comes and goes. Have you ever looked back and noticed that when you were at your poorest you still somehow survived and prospered? It wasn't easy but you did. Look back to all the lost loves. Once one left another inevitably appeared. Lessons were learned and though it hurt, you eventually got up and kept it moving. Life is a cycle that goes round and round. Live it! Enjoy it! Accept it! No amount of overly stressful behavior will change it. No amount of planning will keep someone else's bad decisions from effecting your life in some negative way. Just remember karma exist and you are more than capable of overcoming anything you set your mind too.

Life happens and things hurt. Your job is to overcome it. Don't let life's crap make you live like crap. That's not what we are suppose to do. We are suppose to get up everyday and show up. Face life as it comes. When it sucks give yourself a reasonable amount of time to be human and feel what that feels like. We all have to allow ourselves to be human. Once you are done feeling your feelings and getting in touch with them, brush yourself off and put one foot in front of the other. Persevere! My absolute favorite saying is........This to shall pass! It really does pass. Take a moment to look back on all your hardships and take note of how you persevered. You got through it. You survived!

So, no more sleeping your life away. Living on the couch for months in your pj's. No more pouty face for a year. Smile! Get dress! Get out of that bed and go outside. One small act of living will lead to big acts of living in joy. Continue to plan if you are like me a fierce planner. Just keep in mind that life may smack you a couple of times before you can set your plan in place. Maybe the plan will need to be adjusted a bit. Adjustment is good. Stay the course! Show up for your life. You only get one. Clean out your life closet of all the things that get you down and don't serve you. Invite goodness in and learn to enjoy the ride of life. It really is a fun roller coaster. Throw your hands up in the air and scream, "Weeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!"