My Favorite Parent Moment

I woke up this morning at 5:00 am with my baby girl snoring away next to me. She rolled over to get comfortable. I got up to go to the restroom and came back and she looked snug as a bug in a rug. As I got back into bed, she shifted a little to get more comfortable and fell right back to sleep. The peaceful look on her face warmed my heart. I leaned over and kissed her head and watched her sleep.

Parenting whether you are single or sharing the wealth with a partner, working or a staying at home is the hardest job ever. Sometimes we feel like it's very unrewarding until you receive that hug and the "I love you!" Children are a hand full and can drive you nuts but when they are sleeping and you look at their sweet little faces you realize how much you love them and how worth it, it is to be their parents.

What is your favorite moment with your child?

You are a Hero!

When bad things happen in your life, the people around you have a reaction. In a perfect world everyone would be supportive and tell you how awesome you are for dealing with the problem in such a graceful and respectful manner. However, in the real world the people closet to you will tell you in many creative and colorful ways that you are an idiot for putting up with whatever it is and they certainly would never put up with it because they are so much more stronger and wiser than you.

Well, here is the truth friends! If you can look a situation with both eyes open. Look at what is going on not only from your own perspective but also from the perspective of the other people involved. If you can have empathy for the other person and compassion even though they may be the one at fault. Finally, if you can find it within yourself to not be selfish and to be forgiving and to put your heart and soul into the fight until you feel like you can't fight anymore because you have done all you could. You my friend are a Hero!

Yes, a hero! The reason the judgmental judge is simply because they themselves are to self centered and narrow minded to grasp the concept of what you are doing and feeling inside. You understand and see that you aren't an idiot who is allowing someone to screw you over. You aren't weak because you are smart enough to listen to yourself and decide for yourself when its time to say enough. Work on your time not someone else's.

You are special! You are loved! Evolved and Blessed! You know that no matter what you will do what's right even though there may be some heartache involved. You aren't afraid to jump into the fire. All your haters can't say the same. So stand proud! You are doing a great thing and while you in your peaceful evolved state will live out the rest of your life happy to be you, those who have done you wrong and have judged you will be the ones who really end up suffering in the end. It's the law of the universe. Karma is a very powerful thing. You can't run from it. You can't hide from it. It will find you! Be grateful that you were the good one in your scenario. You will be rewarded for your goodness. And they will be rewarded for their misdeeds in karma. You will be happy my friends. Trust in your inner voice and your goodness. Remind yourself daily that you are blessed and worthy person of all the love and joy in the world. It's coming your way. Be prepared to except it.

Tell me your stories of being mistreated and how you handled it. I believe we all gain strength and knowledge from each others stories.

How do you pray?

I've been taught ask and ye shall receive. Everything happens for a reason. I'm learning or being told that I'm praying all wrong. So I come to you to see how do you pray. How do you ask the Lord or your God, as I understand that we all believe in different things, to give you the things you need. I close my eyes and I speak to God as if he were standing in front of me and I ask outright. I don't mix words. I don't add flurry. I just ask! For example, when my first love and I broke up I asked the Lord to bring him back to me. I asked him to bring us back together.

We never got back together. However, 14 years later he came back into my life and has never left. We are great friends to this day. So I am learning that I wasn't specific enough. I'm learning that you must be very specific. You have to spell it out in the most detailed way possible. The answers you get from God may not always look the way you thought but when you focus you will see that it was exactly what you asked for. I'm by no means good at this. I'm just now at 39 beginning to learn how to do it. Which is why I pose the question.

I have had many unanswered prayers in my life. Prayers that were the most important prayers I could ever pray. Looking back on some of them maybe it was for the best but there are others that I needed answered. So I begin to wonder. Were they unanswered because I didn't ask correctly? Would they have been answered if I did do it right? What do you think?

I was also taught to be grateful for what you receive in life. Not to long ago I heard a woman I trust and admire tell a bunch of people that once you accept your hardships and be grateful for them and the lessons that come from them you will then begin to receive the grace of the Lord that you seek. It's in that gratefulness and acceptance that brings the grace. But I'm being told that that is not true. So tell me what you believe. Let's help each other grow together to make this world a better place. How do you pray?

To do what's hard or what's easy?

In life we have many decisions to make. Some undoubtedly are easier than others. What do I eat for breakfast? What do I wear to work? Coffee or Tea? So many decisions but these decisions are easy compared to the important ones. For example, you see a kid shoplifting in a store. Do you go to an employee and inform them of the thief or do you look the other way? Some man is attacking a lady in an alley. What do you do? I once was at a stop light and saw about three young boys attacking a teenage girl on a bus stop. At first when I heard her scream and looked it seemed as if it was just kids playing but as I continued to observe I realized she was being attacked. My first reaction was to put my car in park and get out to help her. Right as I was getting in gear to do just that a few men who also were at the light got out to help. We were at a very busy intersection with tons of cars but only a few men stepped out.

You have a friend who is being abused by their mate. Do you tell yourself because the friend allows it to happen it's none of your business and walk away? Do you not get involved and try to help your friend or do you take action even though you know that your friend is to afraid to help themselves? Tough questions! Hard decisions!

It's easy to tell yourself, "It's not my problem and not get involved to help but is that the right thing to do?" If the victim was you, what would you want the observer to do? Ask yourself these questions the next time you find yourself in a position to help someone. The person may not even appreciate it in the crust of it all. Look at Jesus! He was proactive and was betrayed. We who believe revere him to this day.

Don't be afraid to act! Don't be afraid to get involved! If we all had the courage to do the hard things the world would be a better place. There would be less abuse and fewer bullies in our space.

Do you have the courage to make the hard decisions or do you make the easy ones? Tell me why either way! Let's chat about it.

Life moves on whether you live it or not!

Life moves on whether you live it or not. Make sure you remind people of this. I'm watching people in my life waste away. Allowing things to hinder them from growing, learning, loving and living. It makes me sad. I to have made this mistake and realize how short life can be and how wasteful we sometimes are.

Enjoy everyday that you wake up. Find the lessons in the bad and turn it into a positive. Find peace and live this great life God has given you. If you don't you will miss out on the greatest moments of life. The moments when your kids accomplish goals. Draw you crazy pictures of animals you just don't see. The "I love you Mom and Dad!" moments of life. The laugher and joy of hanging with friends and family. Making new friends and family as you go along. Life can be trying at times but I've learned that everything comes and goes and it's all about how you approach life and the things that are in it that makes it.

Know who you are and what you want out of life and go get it. Face your fears and doubts and don't let anything get in the way. You want to be in love and marry the person of your dreams but you just broke up with the person you thought was it. Dust yourself off and pray. Remember the good times and put one foot in front of the other. Learn from that relationship and know that it was a stepping stone to the dream relationship you are looking for. Never give up. The person you just left could be that person of your dreams at a different time in life. You never know what God and life has waiting for you but if you wallow and don't live you very well may miss it. That's the lesson I want to pass on to my child.

What legacy do you want to leave your children or the children in your life?

Children are amazing little creatures

I sent my daughter to her Mima two weeks before school started while I continued our month long move. My crazy pain in the butt child was working the last few remaining nerves I had. She ended up staying for a week. When she came home with much protest I found that she was a much different child. She was calmer and more agreeable. I couldn't believe it. It reminded me of the time my first loves dog got picked up by the pound. Before his incarceration he ate my favorite shoes, my panties and made a complete mess of our house because we left him alone in the house. What a concept? Leaving a dog alone in a house, what were we thinking? The dog got out one day and ended up at the pound. He stayed there a week. When we brought him home he was the calmest Siberian Husky I had ever met. I hated the dog before and grew to love him after.

My child went away. Came home! We put our cat down and visited her sick father and went on about our life. Two weeks have gone by since then and I still find that I'm repeating myself less and she is calmer. So the lesson is to send your kids away for a week two weeks before school. The week before school you can spend with your child shopping for school supplies and having a little fun. I think we are going to make this a yearly tradition. Summers are spent with your kids attached to your hip. Give yourself a last minute summer vacation treat before you send your kids back to school and real life resumes. It will make you a happier parent. I found that after that week of peace I was a much calmer mom myself. Truth be told. Children are amazing little creatures. They feed off your demeanor. If you, like I was, are a very stressed out and anxiety ridden person they to will be stressed and anxiety ridden. This will cause you to want to tear your hair out because they will act out more just to drive you crazy. Taking the time off gave me a chance to recharge and settle down. I'm calmer so she's calmer. Lesson to live by. Every parent needs a break from time to time. Give it to yourself and to your kids. Everyone will be happier for it.

Funny Thing About Love

I have loved and lost once in my life and I thought because that love moved on that I was all but forgotten. A very insignificant person and experience in his life. It was a tough emotion to live with because we were first loves and high school sweet hearts. For most people that's the most important Love of your life.Years passed and he came back and I learned that I was never far from his mind. I was actually in the for front and his feelings hadn't changed.

Still years passed and another re-entered. I was never in love with him but he was with me and he to informed me that I was always at the for front of his mind and the feelings never changed. In that instants I learned a very valuable lesson about Love.

Funny thing Love, once you are in it, it gets deep within your heart. With every passing year it gets deeper and deeper. No matter if you are together or apart the Love of that persons sticks with you and there is nothing you can do about. It never goes away if it is genuine true love. That person is never far from your mind.

So never fear loves who have lost because of the mistakes your love made. You were important to that lost love. More important than you will ever know because though you both may have moved on with your lives you pop up in their lives more times than they would ever be willing to admit. When you love someone so deeply and make mistakes that cause you to lose it. It sticks with you. You feel guilty and you feel remorse for losing the greatest thing in your life. It is true what they say, "You don't know what you've got till it's gone." Or as my aunt use to say, "You're gonna miss me when I'm gone!"

Take comfort in that my friends who have experienced heart ache. Let it bring you solace. You weren't forgotten. They will forever be tortured by the continuous thoughts of you. They screwed up and just didn't have the guts to come back and ask for forgiveness. Feel grateful within yourself that you experience that great love and have the great memories. Some people aren't so lucky! Send them peace from your heart and allow yourself to feel the same. If you were important enough in someones life to be loved you are most definitely important enough to remembered.

Stay True to Yourself

Never take on someones else's problems and choices upon yourself. In other words: Don't take blame or feel guilt for the choices other people make. We all rise and fall in life. How you handle that raise and fall is up to you. You can guide people and try to help people but you can't make people see the light. You can only do that for yourself. Stay true to yourself in everything you do because its tough sometimes making good choices and being the good person. Sometimes you get hurt and that sucks but always remember especially when you are feeling your worse: It's always a means to an end. Everything happens for a reason. We never know in the mist of it what the reason is but we find out sooner or later. It's always revealed. If you can hold out that long you will feel relief.

Don't ever hold yourself back from feeling the emotions. Emotions are important. In some cases they remind us of what we should and should not do. Sometimes they remind us that we are human. They guide us on our way through life's experiences. Have you ever been heart broken? Remember how awful that felt? Because you felt it you worked harder at your next relationship or you searched for a different type. Over all you learned a lesson. Overall you may simply be grateful that you were loved. Whatever the feelings allow yourself to feel them. Then move on! Don't dwell! That's bad for you!

Finally, no matter what don't ever feel bad or allow someone else to make you feel bad for trying your hardest. Anything worth having is worth working hard for. Do your part and when you find you have done enough whether it's appreciated or not praise yourself for having the guts to put your emotions on the line. It takes bravery to do such a thing. Someone I admire once told a group of students that, "A hero is not brave because they don't get scared. They are brave because they face their fears." Always stand up for yourself no matter the consequences. Ultimately, feeling good about yourself is the most important thing and if you don't feel good about what you have done and how you have handled something fix it. However, if you did what you needed to do to stand up for yourself and someone feels the need to punish you for it. Let them go! It's not worth it! You are worth more than that!

Welcome!

Welcome!

My name is Kay and I will be your stewardess for your continuous adventure into my life, love and parenting. My life has been a whirlwind and it hasn't changed. I can promise you will never be bored following me and the crazy, irritating, sad, joyous and absolutely funny things that go on. You will learn new life skills, get lots of words of wisdom and possibly witness a rant or two.

Today I learned a valuable listen. No matter the outcome do what ever is in your heart to do. There will come a day when you realize you've done enough. You will know this day when whatever the situation you check your chest and find that it is calm. :-D

Don't listen to others. Ignore the naysayers. Listen to your heart, your concious and God. Those are the only voices you need. If you feel you need to bounce your thoughts off someone only do it with those people that support you. Those people that are openminded enough to listen and not judge you. Those that judge and don't give you positive feedback to help you feel better and sane are not worth your time or space. Get rid of them. Don't allow them to doubt what you are doing if you are strong in your conviction. You learn who your true friends are when you go through the hard times in life. Sometimes Spring Cleaning means more than just cleaning your house.

I'm ready for a change! Welcome to my world everybody! Check in everyday who's knows what will come out of my head and enter your world. Whatever it is! It will be entertaining!